The best evenings usually begin with two emotionally stable adults agreeing to make slightly questionable decisions together.
A little effort upfront goes a long way:
clear communication, good manners, basic social awareness, and ideally arriving without the energy of a man who argues with hotel receptionists.
I value warmth, discretion, generosity, humour, and people who know how to relax and enjoy themselves without turning the evening into a corporate negotiation or a true crime documentary.
Think of the below less as strict rules and more as gentle guidance designed to help us skip directly to the good part:
the chemistry, the conversation, the flirtation, and the increasingly poor time management.
Arrive Like Someone Who Was Raised Properly
If we’re meeting at my incall, please shower upon arrival.
If we’re meeting after dinner or drinks, please freshen up beforehand.
If I’m visiting you, I ask that you’ve already handled the basics before I arrive.
This is less “strict etiquette rule” and more “let’s both avoid behaving like feral raccoons.”
I put care into looking and feeling good for our time together, and I deeply appreciate the same energy in return.
Administrative Tasks, But Make It Sexy
Please have the gift prepared at the very beginning of our date- calmly, discreetly, and without us both pretending we’ve never done basic human interaction before.
Confidence is incredibly attractive.
Awkwardly circling the topic for twenty minutes like we’re negotiating a hostage release unfortunately is not.
If we’re meeting publicly for the first time, you’re welcome to tuck it discreetly into a gift bag, book, card, or anything else that doesn’t make the situation feel like a poorly executed undercover operation.
On Gifts & Other Dangerous Behavior
Gifts are never expected, but thoughtful people do tend to stay memorable.
Whether it’s a cute purse, a rare Disney collectible, flowers, something from my wishlist, or simply noticing the little things I enjoy- genuine generosity has a way of lingering long after the evening ends.
Emotionally speaking, I’m very easy to influence with thoughtful gestures and good lighting.
Time Is Real
Please arrive on time.
I allow a 10-minute grace period because traffic exists, elevators are slow, and life occasionally enjoys testing us.
After that, our scheduled time begins regardless- mostly because I value clear communication and partially because pretending clocks aren’t real has historically caused problems.
A Brief Note For The Future Documentary Filmmakers
Please do not take photos, videos, audio recordings, or attempt to secretly direct your own independent film project during our time together.
I value discretion deeply, and I hope you feel the same way!
“I never look back, darling. It distracts from the now.”
— Edna Mode